8 Types of Parenting Styles That Might Lead To Trauma in Children



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Here’s a post that I know is going to step on some toes but I still felt like I had to make anyway – the 8 Types of Parenting Styles That Might Lead To Trauma in Children when they grow into Adults.⁠

The research and discussions around how parenting leads to trauma are extensive and intricate. Some even suggest that all of our current mental health issues stem from some form of experience in our childhood years.

I wouldn’t say that I go to that extent yet to say that all mental health conditions have their roots in childhood, but definitely, there is a massive link between some of our unhelpful coping mechanisms or trauma responses now and how we were brought up.⁠

This is the reason why parents carry such a huge weight on their shoulders — things that they do not only affect themselves but also their children’s futures too.

I get a lot of pushback whenever I post about parenting, but in all of my posts, I always try to make the point that parenting is perhaps the hardest thing someone can do. ⁠

No one expects you to be perfect, most of all your adult children, but what they do expect is for you to try your best and at least be responsible for the things within your control as a parent.

Children Trauma
Children Trauma

8 Types of Parenting Styles That Might Lead To Trauma in Children:

1. “Toughen up” Parenting:

This is when parents tell their children to suck it up even when they have reached their limits which tells them that their needs are unimportant.

2. Helicopter Parenting:

This refers to parents who hover around children all the time, preventing them from discovering themselves and asserting their identity.

3. Inconsistent Parenting:

When parents set unclear or changing rules, guidelines, and values it often means children must get good at guessing what their parents want, creating a sense of confusion and instability.

4. “Deal With It Yourself” Parenting:

When parents leave their children to solve every problem even when they’re helpless. Of course, children should still learn to be independent, but this extreme often causes hyper-independence in adults.

5. Emotionally Neglectful Parenting:

Parents like these simply think that providing food, water, and basic needs is good enough. But when you don’t address your child’s emotional needs, it causes a long-lasting sense of abandonment.

6. Treating The Child As A Parent:

Also known as parentification, this is when children are given responsibilities (emotional or physical) akin to that of an adult which causes them to grow up earlier and not enjoy their youth.

7. Conditional Love Parenting:

This is when parents gatekeep the love and affection that all children deserve behind grades, achievements, and other arbitrary measures which teaches them that they’re only worthy when they’ve achieved stuff.

8. Comparison-Based Parenting:

When parents treat everything as a competition, comparing their children to cousins, friends, and neighbors and even pitting siblings against each other or choosing favorites it causes children to feel like they’re never good enough.

Trauma in Children
Trauma in Children


Parenting is tough and no one expects parents to be perfect. Good parents need to strike the right balance of teaching independence v.s. safety, fun v.s. responsibility and rules v.s. freedom.
Ultimately, one aspect that all good parents have is the ability to listen to their children and communicate with them, even if they’re doing something they don’t like. Mistakes are inevitable, but at least we want to say we did our best.


So in This Post, 8 Types of Parenting Styles That Might Lead To Trauma in Children. What other points can you think of/have experienced? Let me know in the comments.

If you found this helpful or feel free to share your experience if you can relate to these points and if you are comfortable share

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